Did you ever think your marriage would be in its current state? Whether great, good, exciting, sad, bad, ugly, boring, not growing, feeling like you all are just roommates, unresolved conflicts, dealing with verbal abuse, physical abuse, emotionally detached, financial hardships, and the list could go on. Your marriage could be good based on your perception of what you would call good. While you may not be experiencing any problems in your marriage, is it the marriage that God had in mind?
Often times before we ever learn how to be married by God’s design we have made so many errors and mistakes that now affect the entire family. It’s okay, whether our children or 5 or 55, we still have the opportunity to show our sons and daughters what God means in His Word concerning marriage. It is possible through Biblical Education on being husbands and wives and our roles as parents. With the right education you can change the dynamics of your marriage and family.
From childhood little girls practice being a wife, housewife, with duties of keeping the home clean, cooking, making sure everyone has everything they need and a mother to her children. Little did we know that the practice could not prepare us for the reality of where our marriages are today.
The marriage we imagined was just that, what we imagined. We spent many days daydreaming about what marriage would be like for us, a piece of heaven on earth. Having the Biblical definition was not at the forefront of our imaginations. For little girls is was only the thought of the husband, the house, the chores and the children. If little boys were included in the role play, they went off to work. There wasn’t any real communication. The imaginary characters were just told what to do and there wasn’t any pushback. Now we get to deal with real people, who have different ideas and opinions based on their upbringing. Husbands who go off to work and do return home and no one is there. We have children who are not only influenced by us but also by children in the neighborhood, daycare, school and shows on television. Now the question is how do we make it all work so that we are doing it according to God’s design.
First, it’s a matter of the husband loving his wife as Christ loves the church according to Ephesians 5:25. A wife submitting to her own husband Ephesians 5:22 and both taking active roles in bringing up their children according to Ephesians 6:4.
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord – Colossians 3:18-20. Following God’s plan will create the marriage and family that He had in mind for His plan. Marriage by God’s design is possible if we commit to following His plan and seek direction.
Keep in mind the covenant you made with God and your spouse. To continue to maintain a marriage without the presence of God speaks very boldly and loudly to one fact, that you don’t need Him.
Don’t wait until you see the flames before you seek assistance. Get the tools you need to maintain a Godly, healthy and solid marriage so you can prevent fires. Marriage is a preview to the world how Christ honors His bride. You can be on your way to having a marriage by God’s design.
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